2010-05-15, 16:02 | Link #4601 |
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Probably just means first sign of interest. If ahe shows that she's interested, don't jump on the chance. Get to know her better first and discover her motivations. Most girls her age have simple crushes, but there are also those who are already seriously looking for love, even someone of marriage potential.
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2010-05-15, 17:19 | Link #4604 | |
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So long as it's not acted on, that's kosher, otherwise the older person is in a heap of trouble.
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2010-05-15, 18:11 | Link #4605 |
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It's been a month since I started going out with my boyfriend, and it is only now I have discovered something may be amiss in what I thought was going so well.
Yesterday, I spent a day in Melbourne with some friends and him, looking at various clothing shops (my friend purchases this awesome coat and gets compliments left, right and centre). My friends made note of something interesting that I failed to note (maybe because I was too ignorant to see something was wrong), but I stormed out of a shop after someone rudely told me to "get out of (his) f***ing way", and he said to my friends I was just having a bad day, which my friends found a bit odd. Isn't it that your partner should probably look into something if one storms off in a huff? I also made note of the fact he was becoming increasingly upset over something. In a way, he was a bit like me: constantly frowning, only smiling long enough to laugh at something, and then go back to frowning. Eventually, without warning, we were sitting in a cafe and he just up and left. Now I would hate to make judgment, but my friends had noticed something was wrong that day, and even I did too. Normally, he's much more cheerful, and that would usually be me doing something like that. He was either unhappy in general or there is a more underlying and much more complex problem than I realised. I am going to talk to him sometime soon, and not over MSN either (he doesn't seem to be on it recently anyway) I would seriously hate to think it was over already after just a month X_x.
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2010-05-15, 19:16 | Link #4606 | |
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I do agree that talking on msn is not a good idea. It's better to talk things in person.
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2010-05-15, 21:49 | Link #4607 | ||
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2010-05-16, 00:10 | Link #4609 |
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Noted.
I am not saying that I am not interested with her but right now I do believe that it would be best for her to find her love around her age. Why? because we all know that our teen age life is the most fun moment in our life. Maybe I do not what her precious teen age life to be wasted. This is just my thoughts in my opinion.
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2010-05-16, 01:02 | Link #4610 | ||
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I also had that little voice in my head (yes, I did the Golden Compass thing and ended up with a white wolf named Scion) who tells me I should have left him long ago and sought another girl. I am highly weary of this voice (she sometimes even pisses me off) but she's usually right in some way or another. I cannot do anything now until I talk to him, and I haven't heard from him since yesterday. He didn't even want help getting back into Melbourne and back home, even though we were on the other side of the city.
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2010-05-16, 01:57 | Link #4611 | ||
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Location: Athens (GMT+2)
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From the looks of it, two things could be happening...but the first has been going on for a while already: you're upset about the way people treat you because of your orientation, even though you don't have a problem with it. Second: you're not as interested in men as you thought you were, and now you want to go back asap in order to avoid future trouble, and because of the dilemma your mood's dropping.
I got no idea what your bf may have been thinking, maybe he's just tired or something...at any rate, sounds like you need to talk. Quote:
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2010-05-16, 02:24 | Link #4612 |
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There's a difference between a moderate chauvinist and an extreme chauvinist. Since we men are not very good at understanding the opposite gender, non-chauvinistic males tend to have the "not my problem" kind of thinking when their girl gets into trouble because they don't see girls as physically unable to defend themselves.
Not to be offensive, but it has come to my attention that girls who speak out loud or think like that either : 1. Don't know what they are thinking 2. Are trying to be assertive to cover up their insecurity (a.k.a Miss Tsun) 3. Are bitches who try to get guys to pander up to her Given how most modern societies have developed, Ayn Rand's rhetorics has little or no relevance to females because gender equality, is already more or less there.
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2010-05-16, 03:55 | Link #4613 | |
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As for him, he may be upset that I continue to ramble on about it, could also be the fact he's upset that I haven't been able to get close to him (and haven't had any alone time with him for 4 weeks already), or the fact that he's seeing that I'm picking up the cat mannerisms from him (as I am meant to be the seme, apparently, and acting part cat is his thing not mine). It could be anything, but I will need to talk to him about his suddenly getting up and going without warning, that was the first sign of trouble I noticed.
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2010-05-16, 08:09 | Link #4614 | |
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For one, to keep it at the point of stalemate, ignore them. Whatever they ask you to do, say ONLY these two words : "Hm, okay." in an apathetic tone. DON'T ARGUE WITH THEM. Continue with the relationship until it ends. You probably don't know when so don't think about it, just continue on. Secondly, there's more to life than just being in love with somebody. According to Maslow's Needs Hierarchy, self-actualisation is at the top, and that is what you are subconsciously working towards, whether you realise it or not. You don't know who you are, or what you want, and you are doing your best to find out why. For now, focus on these three things as your main objective : 1. Do well in your studies 2. Make more friends, know more people. 3. Find out what you really want to do in life before you reach 21. Otherwise, you will have a difficult time salvaging your life after 5 years later, which is what I am doing now.
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2010-05-16, 08:21 | Link #4615 | |
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That age ranges from 30-40, or sometimes lower at about 25-30, depending on how old the person has reached his/her goal of personal success. That emotional support is critical to maintaining a support level as he/she continues to be successful. Henceforth the saying, "Behind every successful man/woman is a successful woman/man.". He needs the foundation to succeed later in life, and the strength of the foundation is relative to how he uses a severely short-supplied resource called time. Whatever you learn and experience in your teenage and youth years, will form the foundation of your character in your life. Unfortunately, more than 90% of the world population, including me, ignore advice like this, so I won't be surprised if he does. I suppose it's the two previous years of hell that gave me a really rude awakening, and it put me in a situation which I have one hell of a skill for that many others don't : salvaging.
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2010-05-16, 12:27 | Link #4616 | |
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2010-05-16, 14:15 | Link #4617 |
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I am curious about something.
I have seen pictures on the Internet of people (mostly guys ) with lots of anime figurines and dolls, some of which are in various states of being clothed, or none at all. (And no, that link is SFW.) Some people seem to be avid collectors, having entire rooms full of such figurines and dolls. I wonder what happens to the collection if the guy who has lots of figures/dolls that are in various forms of nakedness gets married and has children. I mean, even if the girlfriend/wife is open minded and okay with them, would the couple want their children to grow up knowing that their father has such a... sexy... collection? Does anyone have any thoughts (or real life experiences ) with this? Please share. |
2010-05-16, 14:47 | Link #4618 | |
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